Whats Stopping You Getting Things Done? Whatever the cause, many people spend their lives in a cycle of enthusiasm and endeavour followed by setbacks and cynicism. The result is procrastination, low attainment and frustrated ambitions. By looking back and helping us understand how and why we developed our ineffective habits, Robert Kelsey shows in order to break this cycle we need to unravel our chaotic minds. Kelsey states that disorganization is not innate or inevitable and we can learn processes that allow for effective personal progress. We can get control of our time. And we can manage tasks. We simply need to recognise that we are the problem (not our parents or peers, nor the complexity of modern living and certainly not our genes) and then set ourselves up for efficiency. And if we turn that process into a habit we can develop a highly-effective, future-oriented, routine. Whats Stopping You Getting Things Done? analyses time management problems in order to aid focus and concentration. It examines planning and process, and discovers ways for overcoming barriers or roadblocks (including big-tasklists) and tackles specific areas of our lives where disorganisation can be most disabling. And finally there is the payoff how we can use our new-found efficiency to generate and execute ideas, be more creative and develop strong leadership skills? Of course, this can go deeper: helping us cope with stress and anxiety (two symptoms of the cluttered mind). Yet we must also recognise and accept the limits of organisation. We cannot gain full control in an essentially-uncontrollable world. Such a pursuit will only frustrate us further. Once we have mastered time and task management, however, and brought control to the areas we can influence, our fear of the uncontrollable is likely to recede. Whats Stopping You Getting Things Done? is emotional ergonomics for the organisationally-challenged individual at home, at work, with themselves, and with others. Contents Introduction my own personal chaos Part 1: The Unproductive Mind Part 2: Tools and Resources Part 3: Getting things done Part 4: Other People Conclusion: Its all chaos The 7 Habits of Highly Ineffective People
Confidence is not like an immunization jab. Its not something that can simply be injected into us through motivational exercises and positive thinking. Confidence comes almost exclusively from experience and self-knowledge. Millions of smart people are held back by a lack of this self-knowledge and unwittingly generate the kind of self-reinforcing behaviour that leads to low confidence. In the follow-up to the groundbreaking bestseller, Whats Stopping You?, with his very British approach to self-help, Robert Kelsey draws on extensive research and personal experience to provide a road map to help break down the barriers that make us shy away from achieving our true potential. Whats Stopping YouBeing More Confident? is aimed at helping to highlight the key reasons why you might be lacking confidence in the first place, what causes self-doubt or makes you feel less able than others. Then we are shown how to turn this around, by examining the traits that make someone confident, developing tactics for maintaining self-assurance and learning how to apply these in real-life practical situations. Confidence is about knowing what were good at, but also realizing what were not good at. Once we have come to understand and accept this, we can truly learn how to develop and sustain true confidence. Introduction Part One Explaining Poor Confidence 1 Scripts 2 Mindset 3 Reactions 4 The Journey Part Two The Alchemy of Confidence 5 Optimism and Resilience 6 Self-efficacy and Talent 7 Courage and Extraversion 8 Trust and Judgement Part Three Achievement 9 Identity 10 Goals 11 The Plan Part Four Situations 12 Shyness 13 Work One: Us 14 Work Two: Them 15 Dating Part Five Barriers 16 Prejudice 17 Procrastination 18 Depression 19 Stress and Anxiety 20 Hubris Additional Material: What the Psychologists Say
